Funerals are a difficult time for everyone. The passing of a loved one is painful, and the thought that there’s nothing you can do or say to alleviate the pain makes them that much harder. For friends of the family, the most that can be hoped for is to honor the deceased respectfully and remember everything they gave to those around them.
Therefore, choosing and knowing where to send funeral flowers can be fraught with its own unique set of difficulties. Condolence flowers are thoughtful and caring and are more than likely to be appreciated, but abiding by funeral etiquette in your choices is very important.
Choosing the Right Flowers
There are many flowers which are commonly sent for funerals and memorial services. Of course, if you are aware of the deceased’s personal preferences, feel free to include some of those as well, within reason (a lot of bright colors might seem inappropriate to those who don’t know the connection).
Here are some suggestions for condolence flowers:
- Lilies: Especially white lilies, which symbolize purity. At a Christian funeral, white lilies represent the deceased returning to the innocence from which they came.
- Gladioli: A sign of the integrity and fair-mindedness of the person who has passed.
- Roses: Darker roses, such as black or dark crimson, are especially poignant when sending flowers to the family of the deceased. White roses are also commonly sent.
- Chrysanthemums: Especially in Europe and East Asia mums are appropriate to send as condolence flowers.
- Carnations: With their variety of meanings, carnations are apt when sending condolence flowers to the family. Consider sending red carnations which indicate love and devotion, while pink carnations symbolize remembrance.
How the Flowers Should Be Presented
Traditionally, condolence flowers, whether they’re meant for the home of the family or the memorial service itself, come in a variety of styles. Within standard funeral etiquette, they are all equally acceptable, so it comes down to your personal choice and what best represents your feelings.
The standard condolence flowers styles are:
- Tied Sheaves
- Funeral Sprays
Where to Send Funeral Flowers
Depending on your closeness to the deceased, as well as the wishes of the immediate family, sending flowers to the home of the family may or may not be acceptable. There are a lot of things to take into account and if in doubt it is best to call the funeral parlor.
- Home of the family: If you are on personal terms with the family and know that it would be acceptable for them to receive flowers, then you can consider sending condolence flowers to the family directly.
- Funeral Director: If you are unaware of the precise wishes of the family then it is best to check with the funeral parlor itself and do what they suggest. In general, it is always a safe option to send your chosen flowers there.
- Place of Worship/Crematorium: Depending on the tradition or wishes of the deceased it can be normal funeral etiquette to send condolence flowers to the place where the final service will be held.
It is also important to take religious considerations into account as in some instances, in Judaism for example, sending flowers to the service is not appropriate, but it can be appropriate to send flower to the home of the family or make a donation to charity instead.
Whichever way you plan to mourn the deceased and support their family, even if you are unsure of the most appropriate funeral etiquette, The Bouqs Company is here to help. Our artisan florists have a wealth of experience in preparing farm-fresh Bouqs which are sensitive to this emotional time in your friend or family’s life. Get in touch or view our carefully curated selection online to make a selection.Shop All