Whether you’re arranging or attending, funerals are always a somber and sometimes stressful occasion. Losing a loved one is one of life’s hardest experiences, and it can be hard to know how to show proper support for someone experiencing such a tumultuous time.
There are a lot of common questions about sending funeral flowers. What kinds of arrangements are best to send? Is it ever inappropriate to send flowers? Where should I send flowers—the gravesite, funeral home, or a personal address? We can help you navigate through all the different options, to either prepare a beautiful ceremony or send your sympathies.
Types of Arrangements
There are several different types of arrangements to choose from, specifically designed for funerals. It is important to note that the type of arrangement you choose is far less important than simply being present for your friend or family member in their time of loss. When sending flowers, you should aim for flowers that are low maintenance and have enough life left in them to last well through the service.
Popular funeral flowers include lilies, chrysanthemums, orchids, and carnations in almost any shade. The difference between “funeral flowers” and “sympathy flowers” is that funeral flowers will go directly to the funeral home to act as a tribute at the service of the deceased. They add decoration, beauty, and life to what can be an overwhelmingly somber event. Sympathy flowers are typically sent after the service.
As for flower arrangements to send to the ceremony, consider floral baskets, a lovely display that comes in an array of sizes and is usually delivered to the church. Standing sprays are an arrangement typically purchased by the family of the deceased and displayed near the casket; they can be viewed from one side only and rest against an easel. In memoriam wreaths, crosses, and hearts are popular arrangement choices and are appropriate for family and close friends to send to either the home or the wake. The circular shape of a wreath represents eternal life, while crosses represent faith.
Dish Plants are an assortment of lush green plants or flowering blooms that are a long growing, low maintenance choice to send directly to a family’s home. It is important to consider your relationship with the deceased before purchasing and sending an arrangement. Casket wreaths and sprays should be saved for the immediate family, where standing sprays are typically sent by extended family. Friends and colleagues are encouraged to send smaller pieces: basket arrangements, bouquets in vases, and wreaths.
When Not To Send
While it’s always a beautiful gesture, it isn’t always appropriate to send flowers. Some cultures do not traditionally receive flowers, such as the Jewish and Islamic faiths. In Buddhist ceremonies, white flowers represent mourning while bringing red flowers is considered poor etiquette. If a family requests that in lieu of flowers you make a donation to a beloved charity, you may do that instead. The best approach when wondering if flowers would be an appropriate gesture is to reach out to the funeral home or a family friend/relative close to the situation who could provide some guidance.
Which Flowers and Why
Whether you’re planning the ceremony or just attending, an additional thing to think about when choosing flowers is what they will add to the day symbolically. Flowers are commonplace at funerals as they represent a sentiment of empathy. They are a visual representation of love, sympathy, and respect.
Some flowers are more commonplace at funerals than others. When in doubt, lilies are the most popular funeral flower. They represent restored innocence to the soul of the departed. Similarly, white carnations represent innocence and pure love, where pink ones are used for remembrance. If the deceased had a favorite flower or color, it is appropriate to arrange a bouquet around those preferences.
While flowers are a physical representation that you’re thinking about someone while they are grieving, nothing can replace your support for them. It doesn’t need to involve a huge gesture, but being there for someone, offering to spend some time together, reaching out, can be a wonderful way of showing your sympathies.
At The Bouqs Company, we know exactly how to say what you want through flowers. Our selection of sympathy flowers is as beautiful as they are meaningful, and will help you express sympathy in a genuine manner.Shop All